I’m a SAHM. There. I said it. I don’t feel guilty at all. I was working since I was 16, so to me, a job was just always something to make money. I never had a dream job in life. Just knew some paid more than others. Yes, I went through all the motions, high school, college, got my BA, and got a big girl job.
Long story short, I wasn’t happy at one of the jobs I had so my husband said I didn’t have to work anymore on the condition that I just didn’t stay at home all day.
I never did that. I volunteered with a wonderful organization for 3 years, I started skating again, and I did temp work as well. However, I just felt guilty. No, it wasn’t like I was going on shopping sprees, far from it. People would just make me feel bad. They’d tell me I had no focus in life. Horrible things. In fact, the non profit I was volunteering with was the most rewarding job I ever held. No, I didn’t make any money, but I worked with inner city girls and we’d teach them about manners and self-esteem. Just seeing them transform from being shy & insecure to smiling and confident girls made my time worth it.
Still, I felt guilty. It wasn’t until a temp job I found turned into a permanent part time job that I felt a little better. Still, it frustrated me that although I was doing rewarding things during my time as a stay at home wife, I was still made to feel guilty. People pictured me sitting on the couch, eating bon bons & watching soaps no matter how much I told them about the volunteer work I was doing. It was just “wrong” to stay at home.
Now that I’m a stay at home mom, I feel a little bit more accepted. Sure, there’s women that are shocked that I don’t plan to return to work in the foreseeable future, but I’m getting more support from people now that I have a child. I do love staying at home. I did love my part time job that I left once I had Andrew, but sadly, all my money would go to daycare, and that didn’t make any sense.
I love being able to play with my son all day, meeting other moms & their kids and being able to share what each other is going through. Since I had Andrew, I’m also discovering a lot of activities & events I would’ve never known if I didn’t have him.
I’ll probably start looking for work once he’s in school, but for now, I’m enjoying my time. My mom wasn’t around when I was really little, so I feel like I want my son to get the experience I never had.